If your last relationship or two has left you a bit of an emotional wreck, it’s better to repair the damage before you start looking for a new lover and partner. Otherwise you won’t be able to show them the real you, and you won’t be able to focus on them if you’re still preoccupied with yourself. If you make a mistake with your new relationship (and it happens to all of us), you could end up more bruised that you started. And even if you did manage to find someone truly caring and loving, both of you could the fact that one of you wasn’t ready yet to launch into a relationship.
Something happen sometime ago one lady who came out of a relationship an emotional wreck. Then she met a man who was lovely – kind, nurturing, protective. Just what she thought she needed. Over the next couple of years he looked after her until she was strong, independent woman again. And what happen? It killed their relationship completely. She wasn’t the woman he’d fallen in love with any more. Lots of men go for strong, independent women, but he wasn’t one of them. He liked women who were fragile and needed looking after.