Monday, 22 April 2013

How to overcome shyness with women

The only way to meet attractive women is to actually go out and talk to them. This may sound easy, but for a lot of of guys, it is almost impossible to rack up enough confidence to approach a woman he thinks is really hot.

And yet for some men, talking and getting the interest of gorgeous women seem to come naturally. These are the players. They may not be the most handsome or the richest man in the room, but they posses a certain quality, that seems to act like a magnet and attract beautiful women to them effortlessly.

So what's the secret of these players that allows them to overcome the shyness that paralyzes the average man? Below are the tips on how to overcome shyness with women.

HAVE FEMALE FRIENDS: The number one reason for feeling shy around women is simply because you lack experience. If your social circle is mainly guys, and you aren't used to talking to women on a daily basis, it's only natural to feel shy and insecure when you talk to women.

The solution to this is to get some real female friends, I know it's going to be tough, but that's an easier step than getting a girlfriend, right. If not a real friend, begin with having some female colleague.

What i suggest you do is to become a friend with a girl that you aren't very attracted to. And really be her friend. Don't try to build attraction, and feel free to talk about everything you want.

  • Remember: To gain experience talking to women is what you need.
JUST DON'T CARE: Another reason for feeling shy is actually fear of losing women. Especially if you don't have many women in your life, that's why when you'll get an interaction with some girl you'll be afraid to do something stupid and lose her.

But, guess what will happen, when you do that? that fear of losing her makes you insecure, and that's even worse. In fact, the less you care about her, the more attractive you'll be.

When you meet a new girl - you don't even know if you like her or not, so don't be afraid of losing her, and it will make you more attractive.

Not caring about her will allow you to really "be yourself", and that's what will make women even more attracted to you. Just stop being afraid of doing something stupid around her. Remember just be yourself and act like you don't care about her and you'll even be more attracted to her that way.

GET USED TO APPROACHING WOMEN: When it comes to approaching women, the ideal is the same. If you don't have the habit of approaching women, you won't feel confident doing it (read how to build self confidence). And in order to master the habit of doing this you need to start building it, step by step:

What you should do first is to  use this trick called the "salami tactics". First, just get used to approaching women without revealing any interest. Every day from now on, approach atleast 5 girls and simply ask them for directions. for example you can start by asking them, "where is ZZZZ street", "How do I get to this Chinese restaurant?" you can also check How to talk to a girl

At first, you only need to get used to doing it (approaching women). Later on, after a few days/weeks, you'll feel that you can do more - and then also ask some personal questions.

Using this salami method, you'll build the habit of meeting women, and you'll get more dates than you ever imagine.

Wednesday, 10 April 2013

how to go on dates with confidence

Dating can be a nerve-wracking experience for many people. After all, you could be meeting your future spouse. It can also be a very vulnerable experience. The whole point of dating (usually) is to get to know someone else on an intimate level, or at least beginning this process. For whatever reason, and there are many, most people want to make a good first impression. At the very least, most people want to avoid rejection. Dating is a prime
opportunity for this by its very nature. Whether you're looking for a fun night out or a long term development, rejection can occur either way, and it can be difficult to deal with. Self-doubt can come in many forms, from questioning one's intelligence to one's looks to one's ability to tell a good joke. Dating puts it all out there. How can you increase your confidence when it comes to dating? There are a few things you can do, and certain methods are more appropriate for some people than others.

First Things First
A date is just a date. It is not the rest of your life. Yes, you may meet your future spouse, but this is far beyond the scope of the date. At this point, no matter how desperate you may be feeling to finally settle down, focus only on the date. Putting more pressure on it makes it harder for both of you. The other person is likely to sense your "desperation" (for lack of a better word), and you end up putting way to much pressure on yourself. Instead, try focusing on the date itself, not where it may or may not lead. Enjoy the time
together, or, if you don't, try to avoid blaming yourself and going into the litany of self-talk that tries to convince you that you're not worth dating, you'll never find someone, and that you'll be single for the rest of your life.

Be Yourself
Yes, you've heard it many times before, and there's a reason for it. If you do hit it off with the other person, it's best if this happens when you're being true to yourself. If you're "faking" it, you're then faced with coming forward and facing humiliation, rejection, or both, or continuing the facade. This takes a lot of effort, it's
dishonest, and you can't keep it up for very long anyway. So whatever your faults, try not to hide them too much. This doesn't mean that you put them all out on the table on the first date, but it also means that you don't go to extreme measures trying to hide them or pretending to be something or someone you're not.

Get Out of Yourself
To help deal with your insecurities about yourself, try focusing on the other person. Show a genuine interest in what he or she has to say. Be honest and courteous in your responses. Let the other person have the spotlight. Not only does this help keep you from focusing on your insecurities, it also helps accomplish what dates are meant to do--get to know someone else better. Ask questions, listen to the answers, and ask more. Talk about common interests when you find them. Above all, try to avoid talking about yourself the whole time or worrying too much about how you look, what you're saying, and what type of impression you're making.

Try Something Different
If the idea of sitting through a quiet dinner with someone you barely know makes you break out into a sweat, consider dating activities that involve a bit more involvement. Take a tour through a garden, go rollerblading, or do some other activity that keeps you moving. If you have something to do, you can focus less on feeling awkward and more on the conversation. It helps keep the atmosphere lighter as well, which can make you both feel more comfortable and
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