I am very sure, you want your partner looks well
groomed and attractive as when you first met them, and that’s understandable. And
if you want them to make the effort for you, you need to do the same thing for
them. I’m not only talking about looks, but also about your behavior and the
way you talk to them. The softness of your voice and all those little
endearments. These things are all part of our attractiveness, and it’s not fair
on your partner if you switch them all off after a while. You wouldn’t thank
them doing the same thing to you.
I should just be clear here that I don’t mean you
necessarily have to spend hours every morning putting on make-up or choosing
clothes or shaving or grooming. When we first meet someone, we often go to town
on making sure we look picture perfect. A few years on, maybe with kids and
busy work schedules, this isn’t always realistic. And you may have put on a few
pounds as well. That’s all fine – if your partner loves you, they’ll still find
you attractive because you’re you. |
So what am I saying? I’m saying that you shouldn’t go to the other extreme. Don't think that just because you’ve caught your man or woman, you can now slob around the house in tracksuit bottoms and an old grubby T-shirt, picking your teeth in front of them. There are still standards to keep up, and you owe it to them to show that you care about staying as attractive as you can for them.
It’s really not that hard to comb your hair nicely
and choose something to wear that is clean and smart and looks flattering on
you. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy and maybe you don’t have time for
make-up or you never wore it anyway. Or if you’re a bloke, perhaps you’ve
always favored the unshaven look and that’s what she likes. It’s just a matter
of showing your partner respect by taking their view into account. And I mean
literally their ‘view’ – they-re the one who’s going to be looking at you most
(unless you spend a lot of time in front of the mirror).
What’s more, you can still make an effort from time
to time. I know there’s not always much time in the mornings when you have a
busy life, but you can still dress up for your partner on special occasions.
Birthdays, meals out, parties and so on. Every once in a while you can still
spend some time in front of the mirror like you did when you first met, and
make sure your partner can feel really lucky to be seen out with you … or to
stay in with you.
NOTE: it’s just a
matter of showing your partner respect by taking their view into account
