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The nice girl makes the mistake
of being available all the time. “I don’t want to play games,” she says. So,
she lets him see how afraid she is to be without him and he soon comes to feel
as though he has a 100 percent hold on her. This is often the point when women
begin to complain: “He doesn’t make enough time for me. He isn’t as romantic as
he used to be.” The bad girl is more selective
about her availability. She’s available sometimes; other times she’s not. But
she’s nice. Nice enough, that is, to consider his preferences for when he’d
like to see her so that she can sometimes accommodate them. Translation?
No 100 percent hold.
What about the woman who will
drop everything and drive to see a man? The man also knows he has a 100 percent
hold on her. After a couple of dates, he goes out with the boys, comes in at midnight,
calls her, and off she goes to see him. When a woman drives to see a man in the
middle of the night, the only thing missing is a neon sign on the roof of her
car that says WE DELIVER.
Your time with him is telling.
The nice girl sits in a chair after a week of knowing the guy, bored out of her
mind as he does something that interests him. He may be watching sports on TV,
cleaning his fishing gear, strumming his guitar, or working on his car. She is
miserable but doesn’t say a peep. Instead, she tries to make the best of it and
twiddles her thumbs politely, just so she can be in his company.
The bad girl, on the other hand,
makes plenty of peeps. In fact, she is bitching the whole way through. This is
not a bad thing, because then he knows he can’t walk all over her. But
remember, a mental challenge has little to do with being verbally combative. It
has to do with your actions and how much of yourself you are willing to give
up. For example, he says he likes blondes. You have dark skin, dark
eyes, and black hair. The next time he sees you, you’ve bleached your hair and
dyed your eyebrows to match. Translation? He’ll sense he has a 100 percent hold
on you
