And yet for some men, talking and getting the interest of gorgeous women seem to come naturally. These are the players. They may not be the most handsome or the richest man in the room, but they posses a certain quality, that seems to act like a magnet and attract beautiful women to them effortlessly.
So what's the secret of these players that allows them to overcome the shyness that paralyzes the average man? Below are the tips on how to overcome shyness with women.
HAVE FEMALE FRIENDS: The number one reason for feeling shy around women is simply because you lack experience. If your social circle is mainly guys, and you aren't used to talking to women on a daily basis, it's only natural to feel shy and insecure when you talk to women.
The solution to this is to get some real female friends, I know it's going to be tough, but that's an easier step than getting a girlfriend, right. If not a real friend, begin with having some female colleague.
What i suggest you do is to become a friend with a girl that you aren't very attracted to. And really be her friend. Don't try to build attraction, and feel free to talk about everything you want.
- Remember: To gain experience talking to women is what you need.
JUST DON'T CARE: Another reason for feeling shy is actually fear of losing women. Especially if you don't have many women in your life, that's why when you'll get an interaction with some girl you'll be afraid to do something stupid and lose her.
But, guess what will happen, when you do that? that fear of losing her makes you insecure, and that's even worse. In fact, the less you care about her, the more attractive you'll be.
When you meet a new girl - you don't even know if you like her or not, so don't be afraid of losing her, and it will make you more attractive.
Not caring about her will allow you to really "be yourself", and that's what will make women even more attracted to you. Just stop being afraid of doing something stupid around her. Remember just be yourself and act like you don't care about her and you'll even be more attracted to her that way.
GET USED TO APPROACHING WOMEN: When it comes to approaching women, the ideal is the same. If you don't have the habit of approaching women, you won't feel confident doing it (read how to build self confidence). And in order to master the habit of doing this you need to start building it, step by step:
What you should do first is to use this trick called the "salami tactics". First, just get used to approaching women without revealing any interest. Every day from now on, approach atleast 5 girls and simply ask them for directions. for example you can start by asking them, "where is ZZZZ street", "How do I get to this Chinese restaurant?" you can also check How to talk to a girl
At first, you only need to get used to doing it (approaching women). Later on, after a few days/weeks, you'll feel that you can do more - and then also ask some personal questions.
Using this salami method, you'll build the habit of meeting women, and you'll get more dates than you ever imagine.
At first, you only need to get used to doing it (approaching women). Later on, after a few days/weeks, you'll feel that you can do more - and then also ask some personal questions.
Using this salami method, you'll build the habit of meeting women, and you'll get more dates than you ever imagine.
